Struggles and ambitions of Chinese millennial moms
Wang Mengzhen, Li Da
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One in five mothers in the world today is a millennial. They were born between the 1980s and early 1990s.

Those in China who were born under the "one-child" policy and grew up in the digital era are facing enormous pressure in trying to balance their careers and babies nowadays.

Gracy Chen became a mother six months ago. As a post-90s mom and businesswoman, she's eager to have a better work-life balance.

"We grew up in the internet era and… we are seeing life from different cultural backgrounds," said Gracy, adding that she noticed that in the U.S., many women are able to work while taking care of their babies without the help of nannies.

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It's something she wants to do, yet she is still struggling with it as well. "I'll say I have a lot of pressure from my closest, including my mother, my mother-in-law and my friends, many of whom are full-time housewives."

Gracy said she tried to not be influenced by those outside opinions and constantly block them out by staying strong, and whenever she has doubts, let go of those voices.

"You have to understand who you are and who you want to be," said Gracy.   

Once a bilingual TV host, Gracy is now starting her own business.

Despite her rather flexible schedule, she sometimes has to leave her baby for work and special events, such as "Mothers' Talk" this time, to which the organizers has invited Chinese millennial moms in order to speak about their struggles.

Chinese sci-fi writer Hao Jingfang shares her stories as a mother of two during Mothers' Talk, Beijing, July 30, 2019. /CGTN Photo

Chinese sci-fi writer Hao Jingfang shares her stories as a mother of two during Mothers' Talk, Beijing, July 30, 2019. /CGTN Photo

"Millennial-age moms have more independent thinking and are better at using multiple tools and resources when raising children in the digital era," said Kiki Gao, founder of Top Her media that focuses on Chinese females.

Three out of four millennial mothers hope to still gain their own career growth opportunities after giving birth, Kiki said based on the company's research.

During the event, many ambitious mothers have gathered. Hao Jingfang, a science fiction writer who won the Hugo Award for Best Novelette in 2016, is one of them.

As a mother of two, Hao said the point she started to find her inner self was when she started reading psychology books.

"At first, I just want to study children psychology. Yet when I read more, I started to find more about myself," the writer said, adding that relaxation is the key to staying cool and managing the busy life between motherhood and work. Not being anxious about the children's current achievements also helps.

It seems that these young Chinese mothers are ready to face what it takes to raise their children while ensuring their ambitions aren't left behind. They have confidence and courage to achieve this goal, despite the pains and gains along the way.